Archive for May, 2012

23rd May
written by Dame Suzy

I’ve been watching a lot of old Cold Case episodes – the fictional crime series that aired from 2003-2010 that tackles cold cases from anywhere from a year to decades-old. For the most part, though, I’ve noticed that when they do find the culprit, there’s no feeling of victory because the arrest and subsequent jailing of the murderer seems to do more harm than good to the other people involved, ruining more lives than just the murder itself did. Of course, because the story thrives on nuance, the murders committed tend to me spur-of-the-moment and often accidental, which is not necessarily the case in real life. Or is it?

On the one hand, I could be drinking the Kool-aid that the show puts forth, and in real life, there are many more diabolical murders taking place. But I really don’t think so.

On the other hand, many murder investigations lead to false imprisonments as I unfortunately have read a good deal about since becoming a donor to The Innocence Project, which uses new sophisticated DNA methods to exonerate innocents convicted of murder, most of them after they’ve been in jail for a decade or two or more. It sickens me that so many lives can be ruined by over-zealous and down-right criminal prosecutors.

Now that the Supreme Court has ruled that a prosecutor will not face any liability for deliberately incriminating an innocent murderer by withholding evidence and the like, I have to come to the conclusion that many unsolved homicides should stay that way. The idea that someone can be convicted of a crime based on a good deal of circumstantial evidence doesn’t sit well with me. If you don’t have a clear-cut case of murder, then you must acquit. I believe that crimes that carry severe punishments should carry a much higher standard of proof as well instead of just beyond a reasonable doubt. Why criminal cases stop at that burden of proof, I don’t understand. I’ll leave it to law people to come up with a better standard.

I used to believe that capital punishment is fine for egregious crimes, believing that only a tiny percentage of those convicted were in reality innocent. How could we sentence someone to death without a conviction beyond the tiniest shadow of a doubt? But we do, and we do so more than a handful of times.

So let some go free so that everyone can move on with their lives. Old cold cases leave unsolved and move on to the thousands of crimes that are fresh.

Note that a high percentage of crimes go unsolved. According to this article,

In 2008, police solved 35 percent of the homicides in Chicago, 22 percent in New Orleans and 21 percent in Detroit.

To me, suspiciously, statistics are almost the opposite in other cities:

Yet authorities solved 75 percent of the killings in Philadelphia, 92 percent in Denver and 94 percent in San Diego.

Could such high prosecutorial rates simply be attributed to better and more resources and smarter people? Or are prosecutors more aggressive and sometimes ruthless in pursuing convictions?

Those who murder time and again are probably easier to convict. Focus on them and easy-to-solve crimes. A random, elusive murder with little evidence? You simply have to let the perp go.

19th May
written by Dame Suzy

In response to this XOJane article featuring a wimpy-looking guy saying something that’s supposed to be provocative, I had to add my two cents. This is the comment I posted.

I dig the equivalent to, “If you want it, you have to come get it.” Once done in Paris by a hot little buff Spaniard in a wife beater with just a come hither finger gesture, another time by a 6-foot-4, built Italian personal trainer in Barcelona, with the words, “You have to come find me if you want your kisses” – the two-cheeked greeting Europeans give…I did get my kisses and then some which provoked my saying a pretty good line too, “Your kisses are like music” which I said in Italian which is even better – “I tuoi baci sono come musica.” Good times.
Note: I don’t believe the wimpy-looking guy in the clip. He’s the kind of guy who ends up laying back and making you do all the work.

18th May
written by Dame Suzy

No. If there weren’t images bombarding us at grocery stores, online, and in Victoria’s Secret catalogs, we would look for these ideals ourselves. Smart women would look at magazines showcasing ideals they had a shot in hell at reaching. Even Forever21 features a large-woman line of clothing. Go there if you’re larger and see images you see in the mirror. Look at celebrity cellulite pictures to show that rich folks are human too. We all know what human is. We don’t want that in our catalogs and fashion magazines. I want to see fit, trim women – to know what that looks like and to aspire to. I’ll never be a swimsuit model, but I do want to look as good as I can. I don’t want to see pictures of average women in swimsuits precisely because it’s not inspirational. Granted I don’t think the models have to be as thin as they sometimes are, but they’re toned and look healthy enough, so good enough.

10th May
written by Dame Suzy

This is pretty much off the top of my head, so stay tuned for more thoughts on the subject.

1) Is it your ability at foreplay? No, not for this girl. Foreplay is seeing you across the room and having “Mrrowr” ooze through my lips. This kind of visual foreplay would lead to my coming the first time in 10-20 seconds if you were to take me right then and there. But as a general rule, girls like this. I do like a finger having a look-see. Nothing like a couple of orgasms before the main event.

2) Oral? Cute and considerate but unnecessary. Yes, I know. I endured eleven progressively more painful laser hair removal sessions to achieve near baby-soft smoothness in my supple areas, but just give it to me already. As a general rule, girls do like this, especially clitty girls (ones who come primarily from clitoral stimulation).

3) At times – like in public, when you don’t feel like giving the druggy homeless person a show, you can caress her cheek (either one), stroke the nape of her neck or kiss/devour it, run a finger down her cleavage or brush her breast, stroke an earlobe, or place your hand at the base of her spine in the small of her back. If you’re sitting down, you can stroke your thigh, knee, elbow, whatever’s in reach. But you can also just sit there, just out of arm’s reach, looking away for enough time where she can stare at you and long for you. Just make sure that when you do return her gaze you’re not aloof.

4) If I look like I’m about to come, don’t change positions – wait the few seconds, then switch, geez. This has happened several times, so it’s not just one idiot.

5) For Christ’s sakes, smile once in awhile. Don’t look like you’re taking a math test that will determine what college you go to. Work some but enjoy yourself. And don’t race to the next exciting position or thing you do. It is okay to stick with what works.

6) If you find things are drying out, lube things up. Use saliva or lube. Alcohol can dry you out and the girl isn’t necessarily going to be a wetness machine. Some of these young guys think, “What a horrible condom” when dry friction rips it. Duh.